The Bridegroom

Of all the things we learned, nothing surprised me more than the position taken by New American Grooms, who wanted to make sure we understood that they were active participants in the wedding – not just players given a tux and a role. This, they made us understand, was different than the behavior of their fathers, their older brothers, or even themselves at their first wedding! Do you have an interesting take on the changing role of men in weddings? If so, we’d like to learn about it.

Comments

[Krista]

As my husband and I planned our wedding together, we carefully discussed every detail, sharing opinions, ideas, suggestions. Although we were fairly young, we were fortunate to have very laissez-faire parents, who each donated money for the wedding costs without adding too much advice. This gave my husband and me a wonderful amount of freedom to plan the wedding we really wanted. Everything was shared, and we put a great deal of effort into having a unique celebration that separated itself from the white-on-white, hotel ballroom, rose petal, limo-rental weddings we'd seen too far too often. We rebelled against the popular notion that a wedding is the "bride's special day" and instead embraced the novel idea that a wedding truly is a celebration of a couple starting a life together. It made the wedding a truly remarkable introduction into married life, where compromise rules all.